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I'm going to risk being called sexist, since nobody here knows who I am anyway, and we're 99% guys here :).  I was on a ski trip with some buddies once, we had the TV going while we were getting ready to go out the door.  There was a program on PBS, discussing sexual attraction.  I didn't catch it all, but what I did catch was fascinating.  Consider the roles that men and women instinctively play out.  We're talking instincts, stuff developed in cave man days.  In order to ensure the survival of the species, a mans job was to seek out a woman who best looked able to bear him healthy children, and take care of them.  That was largely a visual decision, rosy cheeks meant good blood flow (spawning a multi-billion dollar cosmetics industry), large breasts, plenty of milk.  What we now call beauty.

 Men sized up women visually, and instinctively still do when we're not feeling too guilty about our instincts.  Women?  When they had some say in the matter, wanted a man who could defend them, protect them and their offspring, provide for them. It wasn't about the visuals.  It was about their romantic notion of the type A male who would impregnate them and then provide for them.

Don't expect a heterosexual woman to think like you do.  They don't choose so much visually.  They are looking for security.  If they are working at offering up the visuals, it's because they are hoping it will get them security in return.  You need to offer up security, then yo may get the visuals you want in return.