Wetlook World Forum

I'm not trying to tear you down, just maybe give you some advice since I have a bit more than 10 years of experience than you to glean from.

Sorry to hear about your folks dying, I know you were very close. In a way, that may be a very good thing for you. If I recall from your previous posts, you lived with your parents your whole life. You need to learn to live your own life, push away from the computer, video games, etc., and get outside and away from what you've been hiding from your whole life. Put a profile up on eHarmony, Match, OkCupid, Tinder, Bumble, ChristianCafe, or even Passion (well, on second thought, Passion probably isn't for you, it's really sex centric.) ChristianCafe or similar religious based site would probably be best suited for you.

If I recall you are quite religious which may cause you a lot of difficulties with dating and wetlook. I know for me, once I'd had a few dates with someone, I'd bring up wetlook in a non creepy way. The best way to go about it is plan a date near some water and somehow, while having fun, end up in the water. Just don't come out and say I like to take a shower or bath with my clothes on. If you want someone to like something you like but they don't have much experience with, make it fun and you'll have much greater success. I mean for me, I've been into wetlook longer than you've been alive and getting in a shower or especially a bath with my clothes on, leaves me feeling like a drowned rat.

I think the problems you're going to have with it is that for many people, wetlook can have an erotic nature to it and I believe you have said you have a problem with that. If you can switch your paradigm away from the puritanical christian thinking that sex and sensuality is a sin, you won't be sending mixed messages to your date that wetlook is "weird" or "naughty" or any other negative connotation.

But Dude, seriously, don't move to Las Vegas. The wetlook opportunities there are very, very limited. I used to live in Bakersfield, I sent you a couple of offers to get together and get wet with my wife and me, and it has a whole plethora of wetlook opportunities. At least it did when I lived there. The fountain in front of Rabo Bank Arena, or several of the splash parks throughout the city, the Kern River, Sequoia National Park.

There's a date idea for you, go to an event at Rabo Bank Arena and take a date. Afterwards, if the fountain is still on, walk up to it with her, play with the water for a bit with your hand. Having fun, lightly splash her or yourself. Eventually move in and get wetter and wetter until you're both soaked and having a blast.

Now to your relationship dilemma.

My first wife, I never told about wetlook, I always kept it hidden. It was torture but most of the relationship was before the internet so I thought I was the only person who liked it. But putting that aside, she was very jealous. I couldn't even mention another woman, no matter if they were the Bride of Frankenstein. I didn't dare look at another woman because she was sure I was going to go sleep with her. IT WAS HELL.

Get out of that kind of relationship. Jealousy is one of two things, insecurity or lack of trust. Or also a combination of both, but neither one of them is a good thing. RUN, DON'T HIDE. JUST GET AWAY. It's a horrible situation.

I know you may feel you'll never find someone else, she is the only woman who'll ever love you and without her, you'll always be alone for the rest of your life. It's especially hard right now because the people who've always protected and sheltered you are gone. THAT'S NOT TRUE. There is someone for everyone, hell, the concept of your one soul mate is a fallacy designed to make you unhappy.

There are a ton of women out there that are looking for a man and unless you both have very unrealistic expectations, I can assure you that there is someone out there that will make you very happy.

Regarding wetlook.

Make it fun. She may not be "into" it but if you present it right and she sees how it makes you happy, she'll do it to make you happy, especially if it's fun and something you both can enjoy.

In conclusion: Get away from your computer and video games, go on a dating site, dump the jealous girlfriend, you won't be alone for the rest of your life, and find a woman who may not enjoy wetlook but will possibly participate occasionally but doesn't mind or judge you if you enjoy it.

And by the way, moving 300 miles is no big deal if it's for the right reason and right person. Unfortunately for you, it's neither.