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This is a symptom of a larger personality trait - self-centeredness.  If a woman does not want to do things to genuinely please you and do so out of love, that's a huge problem in my book.  This trait will then be reflected in other areas of the relationship - money, etc.  It's about them and their needs, desires, interests and non-interests first.  Yours are a distant second.  In my mind, when I read posts like yours, I say BINGO … just another self centered person who will be that way forever and frustrate this guy till they part, one way or the other.  For these people there is no hope, really.  Sorry to say that, but in my experience it's totally true.  People are who they are and you are not going to change them, so at least relieve yourself of the expectation things can / will change.  I promise they will not.

And, when you mention she saw your UMD activity and was concerned, BINGO #2.  Self-centered to the hilt!  So she knows this is a fetish, doesn't have any interest in pleasing your with it, and then resents when you go elsewhere to fulfill your fantasy.  What a bunch of BS.  I know because it happened to me too.  One word - self-centered.  Period.

I have resented this aspect for her for this all our years. Sometimes more than others, it comes and goes.  But I have learned, obviously, to live with it.   That's not to say all of our marriage was a bummer, no.  To the contrary, we've had a really good life together.  But all said and done, if I were searching for a new partner today, I would never, ever try to build a relationship with someone who didn't enjoy sex, want to experiment, partake willingly and initiate wetlook for us both, and have a genuine interest in pleasing me.  I have learned my lesson, unfortunately too late.  

You're lucky - you have the chance to start over.  Good luck to you.  But, if you wind up committing to a self-centered woman and get frustrated yet again, don't say you have not been warned!