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Message # 40357.2.1.1

Subject: Re: Therapy...

Date: Wed 03/06/09 09:12:59 GMT

Name: w@mboy

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By watershed - Wed 03/06/09 07:19:11 GMT

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Most people are happy with their fetishes, and many partners are either into it or at least willing to engage in it in order to please their partners.  The only circumstance in which it becomes an issue is when the allure of the fetish is so strong that it displaces any other sexual outlet -- that is, when *all* of the attraction is to the wet-clothed woman and none of it is to the woman per se -- and when this situation is what psychiatrists describe as "ego-dystonic" -- that is, when the fetishist *wants* to feel attracted to the woman per se, but can't.

The psychiatrist Martin Kafka, at McLean Hospital in Belmont, Massachusetts, has done a lot of work on fetishism and its links with features of obsessive-compulsive disorder.  He has had some success addressing fetishism with cognitive behavioural therapy and with serotonergic drugs, but -- and this point is CRUCIAL -- the goal is not necessarily to get rid of the fetishism, and not in any way to define fetishsism as a disease; rather, the goal is to make the individual happy and fulfilled with his sexual behaviour.  That might mean getting rid of the fetish, if that is the individual's wish, or it might mean making sexual attraction partially independent of the fetish, and integrating the fetish into the rest of sexual life instead of allowing the fetish to displace the rest of sexual life.

I have been on this forum for quite a while, and like most of the people here, I developed a very early interest in wet clothes and how they express a sort of controlled violation of personal boundaries.  One of my earliest childhood memories is of a pair of shiny red wellingtons, with which I was so fascinated that I refused to take them off.  I grew up in the 1970s and 1980s when brightly-coloured, rayon-backed PVC raincoats were in style, and I was fascinated by these.  (I love the photos occasionally posted here of women in flooded rubber boots; if I could find photos of women swimming in rayon-and-PVC raincoats then I would be over the moon!  The cirologie web site is the closest that I've found to that but not quite the right style.)  I felt horrid and sick when as a teenager I experimented with wet clothes, and was so relieved when at university in the late 1980s I discovered via the alt.sex.fetish.* newsgroups that I was not alone.

A lot of what makes us feel bad about ourselves is mainstream society's lack of acceptance -- but that's a problem about mainstream society, not a problem about us.  The only circumstance in which a wetlook fetish should be viewed as something to be *treated* is when it prevents the fetishist from achieving the happy sexual life that they want to achieve.

By w@mboy - Wed 03/06/09 03:52:19 GMT

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By Robbi - Wed 03/06/09 00:36:14 GMT

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It was so exciting! But I feel a bit depressed as I obviously have this desire to whatch random girls swimming clothed. There is still this deamon in my mind and I would like so much to get rid of it.

I avoid going to a beach with my girlfriend, because I fear that I might spot wetlook. I wonder if I was able to keep my eyes off. I don't know, so I better dont't go.

When I was a single, wetlook was my blessing - now it became my curse.

On the other hand, I want to live a normal life. With a wife and a family. And not spending my time any longer waiting for spotting random wetlook and hang out at the lake like a perverted weirdo.